There really is nothing remotely Like the ten Stages: all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments of our wrong life threatening decisions offer us a chance to learn.

There really is nothing remotely Like the ten Stages: all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments of our wrong life threatening decisions offer us a chance to learn. And here is the hope, the simple hope for all of us: self-reflection. We can learn from our bad decisions.
We just have to study ourselves.
We have to study our motivations.
We have to study our histories.
We have to study our feelings.
We have to become honest with ourselves. This is at times invariably painful too, but if we can tolerate it long enough to be able to sit with it and trace it to its origin, then we can grieve it and we can ultimately reconnect with our true selves. This is how we heal trauma. And once we do that we find that our true selves have the greatest allies imaginable: our conscious minds, our natural intuition, and our passion.
And with those allies how can our future decisions, and therefore our self-care, be anything but excellent?